Often we are so focused on being “right” that we miss the bigger picture. Sometimes our need for control manifests in our need to be right. Being right can become a type of defense mechanism called reaction formation. Reaction formation protects us from painful or difficult feelings by expressing repressed feelings in a contrasting form. […]
Emotional Snipers
Chances are you already have an emotional sniper in your life-you just don’t realize it. Emotional snipers are those friends (or frenemies) who can never be truly happy for you. You know the type-the friend who can’t resist taking a cheap shot just to make you look bad or the person who encourages you to […]
Is my family enmeshed?
Having a hard time seeing where you start and your friend/partner/family member end? During the 1970s, Salvador Minuchen introduced the concept of enmeshment and enmeshed families. Enmeshment is a term used to describe the blurring of personal boundaries. Whether it’s a relationship between family members, partners or spouses, limits simply don’t exist in enmeshed relationships, […]